It’s true what they say, Cancer: You can’t please all the people all the time…so save yourself a world of good (and a pallet of tissues) and stop trying so hard! This lesson may finally hit home on Monday, October 7, when the big-hearted Sun in your foundational fourth house (the natural Cancer center) clashes with unappeasable Saturn in your relationship realm.
Whether you’re bending over backward for a family member or shape-shifting to accommodate a love interest, you’re not being authentic and are probably sacrificing way too much in the name of love. Real connection doesn’t require you to be anything you’re not. But before you point any fingers or blow up over this, own your role in the dynamic. This could come from not feeling loveable enough as you are.
If you’re being honest, you probably realize that there’s nothing you can do to make that person happy (“joy” being an inside job!). While it’s important to keep the peace with your clan, you don’t have to give up your self-sovereignty. Politely let them know you’re an adult and free to live your life the way you choose to. With a date or mate, you may need to evaluate the “cost-benefit ratio” here. You’ve got plenty of caring people in your world. Perhaps this is a moment to pull back a little and let them realize how much they actually need—and adore—you.
Fire up your love light! This Tuesday, amorous Venus grooves into Scorpio and your passionate fifth house until November 1. This is your annual cycle for cranking up the romance quotient in your life to “blistering” level! Regardless of your current status—from single to married to anything in between—your mojo is rising and, with it, your visibility. You’ll have head-turner status wherever you go, so make a point of glamming up a bit, even if it’s just a coffee run.
Simmering connections can intensify quickly under this transit, especially if you know what you want (and think you may have found it). If things are too shaky for your liking, cut bait and fish in richer waters. If you’re in a solid union, you might need to get more vulnerable and open up about something intimate. And since the fifth house rules fertility, couples who are thinking of starting or expanding a family have three weeks of wind in their sails. So hang the Do Not Disturb sign and weigh anchor.
This Sunday, the year’s only full moon in Aries electrifies your tenth house of professional ambition and success, grooming you for an exciting new level of public recognition and increased responsibility. Some Crabs will land their dream job in the coming two weeks—peak manifesting time for this lunation—or perhaps over the next half-year, since full moons can take up to six months to fully unfold.
While it’s hard to be prepared for unexpected opportunities, knowing that they could come out of thin air can help you bring your “A” game to everything you do, even things that seem trivial. In lightning-quick Aries, this moon may require you to make a fast decision, so search your soul and get clear about what you truly desire. Entrepreneurial Cancers might finally take the plunge and open your own shop. Pro tip: Surround yourself with the best talent you can afford, considering them an investment in your financial success.