(March 21st to April 19th)
You scare ‘the one’ away by being wary of commitment and coming off as restless.
You don’t have any problems with falling in love – the excitement and thrill of it always entices you. You love the feeling of being out of control and experiencing something new. What you struggle with is the turning point where things start to become steady and comfortable. You’re so used to chasing things, to constantly moving and experiencing change, that you don’t know what to do when you find someone who you could see yourself with for the long haul – because ‘settling down’ is not one of your finer skills.
(April 20th to May 21st)
You scare ‘the one’ away by giving them no room to make mistakes.
You love fiercely and deeply, and it’s one of your finest qualities. In many ways, you’re the dream partner – thoughtful, selfless, warm. But your intensity can be overwhelming. You have trouble letting things go (even when your significant other apologizes) and you struggle with being understanding and flexible if they don’t do everything perfectly the first time.
(May 22nd to June 21st)
You scare ‘the one’ away by wavering over what you want.
You go back and forth not only about what you want in your relationship, but about what you want in your life. And oftentimes, you turn to your partner and want them to decide everything for you. You want them to figure out what you want out of the relationship and what you want in your career and what kind of life you want to live. Rather than looking at your partner as someone who will support you while you try to figure out who you are, you end up fully depending on them and relying on them to figure everything out for you.
(June 22nd to July 22nd)
You scare ‘the one’ away by trying to tell them how they should feel.
Your strong sense of intuition and your ability to read people can be beneficial in a lot of ways, but it can also be a challenging aspect of your relationship. Too often, you instinctively try to project your own feelings on to your partner. Or, even more challenging than that, you try to tell them exactly how they should be feeling (in your opinion), rather than just listening and asking them how they feel and remembering that they are their own person with their own emotions that are completely independent of yours.
(July 23rd to August 22nd)
You scare ‘the one’ away by trying to control something that can’t be controlled.
You are used to taking things into your own hands and making something amazing come out of nothing. But you haven’t quite figured out yet how to adjust this characteristic when it comes to your love life. You have a hard time comprehending the fact that love is something that cannot be controlled or manipulated – and though you put a lot of effort into your relationships, you tend to scare partners off when you try to master every tiny aspect of it instead of just letting it breathe.
(August 23rd to September 22nd)
You scare ‘the one’ away by scaring yourself away first.
As soon as you’re happy in a relationship, your brain decides that it’s time to start coming up with a million reasons why this is a bad idea or why your relationship must be doomed. And as supportive as your partner tries to be, it can be difficult for them not to get thrown off or hurt when you can’t help but constantly overthink everything about the relationship and all the reasons why it must be wrong. So rather than scaring them off, you really end up just scaring yourself so much so that they feel they have no other option but to walk away.
(September 23rd to October 22nd)
You scare ‘the one’ away by making them feel like they have to compete with everyone else in your life.
There’s nothing wrong with having a ton of friends and loved ones around you all the time – it’s part of what makes you you. But it can get difficult for your partner when they feel that, instead of blending seamlessly into your life, they feel like they have to constantly fight for your attention and fight for a space in your world.
(October 23rd to November 22nd)
You scare ‘the one’ away by trying to sabotage your own happiness.
You have a very hard time believing that you deserve to be happy with someone. And rather than allowing yourself to just sit back, live in the moment, and give in to your emotions, you end up struggling with jealousy, self-doubt, and constant worry over whether or not the relationship will last.
(November 23rd to December 21st)
You scare ‘the one’ away by being too passive about your relationship.
Being carefree and optimistic are obviously some of your best characteristics. But once you’re in a relationship, these tendencies can be overpowering to the point where you end up seeming detached or passionless about what happens next or where the relationship goes. Your partner ends up being afraid that they’re the only one who’s fully in this thing, which is why they end up running.
(December 22nd to January 20th)
You scare ‘the one’ away by assuming the worst.
You are so practical and focused in your every day life, which is great for your career and your ambitious list of goals in life. But when it relates to falling in love, your fatalistic attitude can be extremely toxic to your relationships, and causes your partners to have a hard time seeing the point of even trying.
(January 21st to February 18th)
You scare ‘the one’ away by trying to protect yourself instead of going all-in.
Your sense of self-preservation can really get in the way of your relationships. You’ve been hurt in the past, and although you don’t have any issues being honest with yourself about how much pain it caused you, you do have issues learning how to open yourself up again. You feel safer trying to remain detached and aloof, even though in the long run, it ends up hurting you and the other person even more.
(February 19th to March 20th)
You scare ‘the one’ away by assuming things will just ‘work out’ instead of tackling issues head on.
You don’t have a problem forming connections with anyone – your kindness and compassion always draw people in. But once the relationship gets deeper than the surface level and you start to learn more about one another and where you want this to go, you tend to be overly idealistic and impractical about real issues that come up or will come up. You often willingly keep your head in the clouds instead of coming down to acknowledge and confront the inevitable challenges of relationships head-on. /by Kim Quindlen