You ruin your life falling for toxic people that drain you. And when you fall hard enough for people like these you think you need them. But really it’s them that benefits from someone like you at the cost of your own self-destruction through.
You ruin your love life by playing it safe and settling. You don’t take risks when it comes to love out of fears of rejection you’ve faced in the past. You go for people you know you can get because that’s comfortable for you. But you deserve someone who scares you a little, not someone who is safe.
You ruin your love life by lying to yourself about who and what you really want. Your inability to make a decision leaves you with a few options but being frozen with fear of making the wrong ones leaves you staying in place not moving forward at all.
You ruin your love life by not asking for what you want in a partner. A relationship consists of two people giving and taking evenly but when you constantly gives and are silent about your own wants and needs you end up resenting the person. It’s nice to want to please people but it’s okay to be selfish sometimes.
You ruin your love life by hiding how you feel. You think emotions make you weak. You think crying and vulnerability aren’t normal. You reject these types of feelings you don’t even know how to express them. Because of that, you are attracted to people who are heavily emotional but the problem lies in your inability to understand and meet them emotionally halfway.
You ruin your love life striving for a perfect partner. You have this list in your head that no one seems to be able to match up to. No matter how hard anyone tries or how much they love you, what you are striving for is something you think you lack. You need to be happy with yourself before you can be happy with anyone else.
You ruin your love life by not seeing people for who they really are. You want to believe everyone has good intentions but you go after people who show you they aren’t good but you’re blind to it.
You ruin your love life by not letting people in or giving anyone a fair shot. You seem to only trust yourself which is a good quality to have but when you shut out good people out of fear of vulnerability you miss out on basic emotions that everyone shows but you think is a sign of weakness.
You ruin your love life by thinking you always have to be the strong one. You are beautiful and not just because of your looks, who you are is what captivates the hearts of so many. And you think you got to handle everything on your own. It’s okay to admit you need help sometimes. That’s what a partner is for.
I think you’ve been strong for too long. You deserve the same deep love and affection you gave someone else at one point in time but you deserve to give it to yourself too. When you love yourself the way you love everyone else I promise you someone will follow in that example.
You ruin your love life caring more about what people think about the person you are with than who the person is. If they make you happy you have to realize that is enough.
You ruin your love life trying to use people to fill your own empty spaces in your own heart. Doing this doesn’t fill you and as you go from one person to the next, what you fail to realize is no matter how many people love and care about you, you gotta feel that way about yourself.
You ruin your love life going after the same type of people who hurt you. Insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results. It’s the people you choose that is your greatest downfall. Because you deserve more than what you are settling for.